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You Are Enough!

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Mom Guilt.

You are just tired of the never-ending bills piling up. Tired of cleaning up your house. Tired of putting on a happy face for your family, friends, and even enemies. Exhausted after feeding your newborn and then pumping, hoping to keep your supply up. You’re searching the internet for as many ideas to increase and maintain your milk supply because you’ll be returning to work soon.

While you’re at work, you’re trying to find a room to pump for your little one, because the designated nursing room is on the other side of the building. You try to create a routine but the routine seems so difficult because you’re so anxious and tired. Anxiety and resentment start building up because you would rather be at home with your baby. Due to very little or no leave at all, you had to return to work in order to help provide for your family .

After trying your best to keep your milk supply up, you realize you just can’t keep up. Then, of course, you feel like a failure and mom guilt kicks into high gear.

Your thoughts are racing and you have very little positive thoughts. You are having a hard time focusing on…well life. You may be keeping it together just enough for your family, friends, and associates to believe you’ve got it together but inside you wish things were different.

The guilt is so real. It’s even more real when you were successful in nursing with your previous kiddos. After realizing that the milk you are supplying is not enough, you have no choice but to by formula. You would have never thought you would be giving your baby formula, but it’s happening. Formula provides nourishment for plenty of babies, you just never thought, you would be you giving formula to your baby.

Mommies, I want to let you know…I feel you. I understand that overwhelming sense of guilt. It sucks. It really sucks when you feel inadequate as a mother. I understand working late, long hours and missing bedtimes. I understand wishing you could change your circumstances. I am here to tell you that you are enough. Your baby will love you even when you can’t love yourself. Your baby will cry for you because that baby doesn’t care about your mistakes. That baby doesn’t care about your mom guilt. That baby is happy cuddling and getting kisses from you.

So mommies, give yourselves a break. You didn’t meet your expectations but that’s ok. You get to learn from your mistakes. You get to use that information to help someone else. Mommies. You are enough!

Getting Rid of the Junk

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How many of us have junk, in our homes, garages, cars, etc., that we keep saying we will get rid of soon? When that free time comes available to get of the junk, what do we do? We make excuses! We will find anything else to fill our time up with, other than cleaning up that junk. Well the same goes for our internal “junk”. Internal junk is the shame, negative self talk, self doubt, low self esteem, anger, and resentment we internalize.

How do we get rid of internal junk? Is this possible? Yes, it is! It is important to take the time to spend time in self reflection.  If you know you are walking around with internal junk, would like to get rid of it, but do not know how…start with counseling.  We have all heard the cliche definition of insanity…doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome or change. So, if you have been trying to get rid of the internal junk on your own for months or years and have not succeeded…it’s time to try something new.

When will you decide that enough is enough? When will you decide that “I’m tired of this!” It may seem scary or intimidating but counselors or therapists are there to help you work through your internal junk. They are not there to judge you for your past, present or future choices.  Stop making excuses!!