Forgiveness. A very difficult endeavor for some…easier for others. What does it really mean to forgive? It is unique for everybody and every situation. Holding onto the bitterness and anger that, many times, accompanies unforgiveness causes inner turmoil. Forgiving could be the first step to freedom.

What if the person you need to forgive is you? How many times do we put ourselves down, criticize ourselves or focus on our own weaknesses? It is not uncommon to focus on our mistakes and use it as leverage for mental punishment. We put ourselves in emotional bondage because of the shame and guilt associated with our unhealthy thoughts.

Take some time to self-reflect. It may be time to let go of the shame and guilt so that you may experience the joy of walking in freedom.

Getting Rid of the Junk

How many of us have junk, in our homes, garages, cars, etc., that we keep saying we will get rid of soon? When that free time comes available to get of the junk, what do we do? We make excuses! We will find anything else to fill our time up with, other than cleaning up that junk. Well the same goes for our internal “junk”. Internal junk is the shame, negative self talk, self doubt, low self esteem, anger, and resentment we internalize.

How do we get rid of internal junk? Is this possible? Yes, it is! It is important to take the time to spend time in self reflection.  If you know you are walking around with internal junk, would like to get rid of it, but do not know how…start with counseling.  We have all heard the cliche definition of insanity…doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome or change. So, if you have been trying to get rid of the internal junk on your own for months or years and have not succeeded…it’s time to try something new.

When will you decide that enough is enough? When will you decide that “I’m tired of this!” It may seem scary or intimidating but counselors or therapists are there to help you work through your internal junk. They are not there to judge you for your past, present or future choices.  Stop making excuses!!